After Bob's death, Fern chose to stay, being houseless - If I left, it'd be like he never existed, she said, I couldn't pack up & move on. Some who suffer from loss feel guilty about survival & regard recovery as a betrayal. The pains they cling to is an expression of loyalty. They need time with emotional support, not blame for being stubborn.
You see,you're a better person than I am,and it made me a better person to be around you.I know we could both go on with our lives,and we'd both be fine.But i've seen what we could be like together.And I choose us.